As confidence is one of the hardest qualities to attain, I believe that’s why those with it frequently come across as aggressive. One of the things we all desire most in life is it.
The first is realizing that self-assurance truly comes from inside. True confidence comes from understanding and appreciating who you are; sure, we can put on makeup and nice clothes and feel extra good. You know how sometimes you’ll meet someone who is genuinely beautiful, only to learn that they, too, have insecurities? You could be asking, “How?”
And I’ve questioned the same thing about people: “How could they ever feel anything less than amazing? They are so cool and gorgeous,” but the answer isn’t that straightforward. Enhancing your appearance is fantastic, regardless of how you choose to do it (for me, I love wearing hair extensions, I got veneers, I love a good spray tan, etc.). However, all of that is superficial in comparison to the emotions you experience when your makeup is off, you’re in your pajamas, and there is nothing or no one nearby to divert your attention. What do you think about when you are left alone with your thoughts? When you look in the mirror, how do you feel?
She asked me how I felt while I was in therapy, as I’ve already explained to you all. She inquired after hearing what I said, “How do you know that?” This question was the most difficult for me to respond to. I don’t know why, but I simply feel that way? To cut a long tale short, she stated that she thought I needed to know myself better and gave reasons for her belief. She set me a task and instructed me to jot down a list of questions in my phone’s notes and respond to them each day until I started doing so effortlessly.
I didn’t do it every day, but I did it three to four times a week, and occasionally I didn’t respond to all of them. Because some of them looked redundant at first, and for some reason, I frequently felt strange and uncomfortable writing the responses, I was initially unsure of how to respond to all of them. I persisted in asking the questions, and now that I’ve done so, I’d want to describe how it has altered my viewpoint and, in fact, helped me learn more about my habits and who I am.
